The Effect of Coke Float and Brownies Part 6

How to Cope With Friends Who Turn Against You

It's hard when your friends turn against you. You won't know what to do at first, seeing as they may have been there for a very long period of your social life. Well, this how-to guide is here to help.

Steps
1.        Give them freedom for sometime, try to be same good to them for some days then if nothing changes, try to make them understand how great times you both had, if not still leave a message or a mail everyday regarding a proverb or a saying about life and friendship and love and more which eventually would gain a soft heart for him again, but this would take time and you need to have patience and you need to be calm but if still nothing changes ignore them.
2.        Ignore them and don't let a single tear come out your eyes
3.        Don't do them any more favors.
4.        Tell yourself that you're better than them; knowing that your real friends wouldn't have dumped you/treated you like that in the first place.
5.        Don't withhold forgiveness. Did they take your money and never give it back? Did they lead you to a place to hang out, and then deserted you if you got in trouble, leaving you for dead? You can forgive things like that, no matter how mad or hurt you may be. You shouldn't put up with that type of treatment but forgiveness can help to heal the hurt. This doesn't mean you have to forget though.
6.        Don't consider them your "buddies" or "friends" anymore. It may feel really bad, and you'll hate yourself, but don't resolve to hurting yourself for something they did to you.
7.        Don't care if they are going to parties and inviting everybody else or not. If you get an invite, then that's fine, and you have a choice whether you really want to go or not. Otherwise, meditate and tune them all out.
8.        Be the bigger person. If they are spreading rumors about you or spilling all of your secrets, don't retaliate by doing the same. Remain quiet and mature. They will be the ones looking like the idiots, not you.

 Tips

• Don't let anybody get to you. This is really, really hard to master, but you can do it if you really have a strong desire to.
• Find somebody else. Make new friends with this simple tip:
• Say hello to one person each morning; one and only one for one week. Just say hello, and nothing else.
• Now, on the second week, add another person, but keep saying hello occasionally to the person when you see them.
• And so on.
• You'll gain acquaintances, if not friends, in this way, who might even become really good friends. Then, sit by them at lunch.

Warnings

• Be careful. You don't want to flip everybody off just yet, unless they have done something really, really bad. And no, really really bad does not include she/he tripped you in the halls, she borrowed you nail polish and still hasn't returned it, or she borrowed your clothes and has forgotten to return them.
• Some friends can be stubborn, if you are having a fight, leave it off and say, "Well, we're obiously fighting over nothing, so I'm sorry, okay?" Then don't talk to her for a while and she should forget about it sooner or later.