The Effect of Coke Float and Brownies Part 4

How to Deal With Backstabbing Friends

Dealing with friends who stab you
in the back is an extremely hard thing to do on your own.

 Steps

1.        Unleash
your unhappiness. If the friend(s) turned on you just a little while ago,
you may feel nausea, or maybe you'll feel like screaming or crying. It's
okay. The first step is to let it all out. Have a cry, write a letter then
tear it up, etc.

2.        Figure
stuff out. What exactly did they do? What was your reaction? You can talk
to someone, a friends, a counsellor, etc.

3.        Plan
your next steps. How will you interact with them?
It's best to stay away from them.
So, if you can, stay away. But, if she or he is in your class, that might
be hard. Especially, if you sit near them. You can talk to the teacher
or whoever is in charge. Try not to get the teacher really involved because
that can cause a bigger problem. Ask if you can be seated away from the
person.

4.        Develop
coping strategies. What should you do if this person tries to talk to you?
First, you can try ignoring them. Or, you can give simple responses, like,
'Yeah', 'Okay' or 'No'. Don't sound upset, but don't sound really happy,
or he or she can tell you're faking.

5.        Forgive
the person. You might be able to, you might not be able too. It all depends
on what they did. If you feel you can forgive this person, and try to patch
up the relationship, give it a shot. If it doesn't work and/or this person
repeats his or her actions, give up. They're not worth you friendship.
If you think this person can't be your friend again, it's best to just
leave him or her alone.

 Tips

• Don't appear sad or mad. Don't look
  down. Walk with your pride. This person betrayed you, and he or she should
  be the one upset.
  
• Don't just look happy, be happy.
  

Warnings

• If patching up your relationship doesn't work the first time, do not try again.