If you want to know how to make
a guy fall in love with you,
then this is not the article for you. This is for those who have noticed
a guy and want him to notice her back (getting him to like you is a whole
other story). Luckily, getting a guy to notice you is easier because it
involves the use of basic social skills. You should be
honest, direct, pleasant,
and reasonable.
Steps
1. Be
sure that his attention is what you want, but you don't do you. Don't try
to get a guy to look your way just because you want attention and you want
to feel good about yourself. You don't want to lead someone on like
a puppy taken out for a walk. You could end up in a very awkward or
uncomfortable situation--see the Warnings below.
2. Be
yourself. Everyone
probably says this, but it's true! No guy wants a girl to pretend she is
something she's not. Any guy who wants a fake kind of girl is not a guy
whose attention is worth having. Resist the temptation to put on a show
or to do anything that just isn't you just to get his attention.
3. Get
a new look. Don't change who you are you never want to do that because
you'll actually end up changing yourself, just try something different;if
he doesn't like you for who you are let him be. Try a new hairstyle, new
clothes, etc. It's a good idea to change things up once in a while, just
because variety's the spice of life, and it might help you catch his eye.
Try being that tough girl who is different from all the other okay looking
girls giving him the eyes, because beauty is common, but a good outlook
and a great energy are very rare.
4. Smile
and make eye contact. Whether closed-mouth or open-mouth, do it. Unless
it really makes you feel artificial, learn how to shoot people a reassuring
smile,
letting them know that you're a happy and confident person who wants to
enjoy
life. The idea is to communicate
that you're inviting their company.
5. Flirt.
Do it as little or as much as you want, but remember that too much flirting
(especially with other guys) will likely get him to take notice, but perhaps
not in a good way. If he reacts and you don't think its real (he's just
doing it because you're there and you're a girl and he thinks he can do
better, let him know he can't). If he is faking it, call his bluff and
say something that makes him know you don't think he is 'all that'. For
example, if he comes close, pull a face and offer him gum. This will unbalance
his ego.
6. Hang
out with him often; you don't always want to be hanging around because
you might look like a bug always around and never going away. Start slowly
like a movie or party try not to make it so noticeable cause he might not
be interested.
7. Talk
to him. Try to get to know him a little by discussing things you have
in common. A good way to start a conversation is to ask him a question.
Listen
to him and don't interrupt him when he is talking. You could even compliment
him or ask for help. A good opener is spray two different perfumes on each
wrist, then go up to him and ask him his favorite. This should get him
to talk to you. Also be friendly to his friends to help him feel more comfortable
around you. Some guys don't notice girls unless they talk to the guy.
8. Be
assertive.
You are the girl. You have the power. A lot of guys are shy and awkward
around girls they like, so don't hold back. Do what you want to do. Boys
like a powerful girl. Be decisive. Tell him what you want him to do, etc.--just
don't get too bossy!
9. Make
him feel special. There's got to be a reason that you want him to notice
you, and that's because you noticed him first. Let him know--subtly--that
you're interested in who he is, and that you sincerely want to get to know
him better.
10. Be
brave. Stand up for
who you are, and what you believe in. Ultimately, this will catch the attention
and respect of someone who is going to work well for you, even if it turns
out not to be this guy.
11. Don't
be a slob! It's a real turn-off for a guy when he notices a girl hasn't
brushed her hair or wears the same outfit every other day. Clothes, makeup,
and jewelry are the typical items many guys expect girls to wear. Even
if you don't fall within the typical expectations, just looking presentable
is always desirable--irrespective of who is the guy or girl.
Tips
- Be sure to invite him to every
party you have. Do not give him the first invite, and don't seem so hyper
and excited that would make him rather want to shoot himself than to come.
- Be sure to have gum, breath mints,
Listerine strips, etc. around in case you need to freshen up quickly, especially
if you're hoping to start a conversation.
- If you have gum or mints or whatever
in your purse, try offering him a piece but give a best friend a piece
too, so it's not that obvious.
- It's always a good idea to keep
yourself well-groomed. While there are guys who get uncomfortable and intimidated
if you're all dolled up, it never hurts to stick to a few hygiene basics:
shower, brush
your teeth regularly,
use deodorant, keep your hair decent (not perfect, but decent), and take
care of your skin. Better
yet, stay healthy! Exercise and a mixture of good and bad food is better
than going on a no food diet. Exercise releases a chemical that makes you
feel good about yourself. If you feel good about yourself you are very
good at flirting. Chocolate releases another chemical the makes you feel
very happy, if you don't eat too much that is.
- Speak your mind. You're not a drone,
and any guy worth having will love
it. Just don't scare them by going into a spiel. It's a turn-on to see
a girl who loves her mind, not one who's bent on world domination. Likewise,
don't get caught up in complaining (about yourself, others, your circumstances).
Negativity pushes others away, and it lowers your self-esteem.
- If you cannot relate to any of his
interests, or even make a genuine effort to get into it, there will never
be ground for a lasting relationship anyway. Dump your intentions now.
- Being too straightforward might
mean leaving him bored. One way to get someone's attention is to make him
curious, and that means leaving him guessing to some degree.
- Laugh
at his jokes, even if they aren't funny. Then tell a couple to make him
laugh.
- When you are at a party, hang around
with some friends (and him) and you will all have a good time.
- Hang out with him and his friends
a lot.
- Go to the movies with him, and put
a bit of perfume behind your ears so that he can smell it and want to come
closer to you. Scary movies are better because you can curl up closer to
him more than other times and hold him when you get scared. Plan everything
you do BEFORE you do it. Dates where you go to a movie and sit through
it with nothing happening between you and then you both go home, suck.
He's going to enjoy that so much! NOT.
- Put lip BALM on your lips. This
way he will notice that they are slightly shinier and if you get close
he will be able to kiss
them. Guys really don't like gloss, they find it sticky and it truly doesn't
taste good. Fruit flavored balm is best. Or, if you must wear lip gloss,
a good kind is NYC Kiss Gloss. It is flavored with no sticky feeling.
- Be mysterious; keep him guessing.
Don't overdo this; it will make him frustrated if you do it too much.
- You have to be able to know how
to not be so serious! Be laid back, be fun!
- Never ask him out through a friend!
He`ll think you're a coward and he might just say no.
- Be
outgoing and make
small talk every once
in awhile. Just remember not to be nosy, though.
- Don`t ask him how you look! It will
just make him uncomfortable and he`ll think you're too self-absorbed for
him.
- Make sure you don't say anything
that you think might offend him.
- Find out what his favorite color
is -- subtly, don't just go up and ask him unless you're really confident.
Then slowly integrate it into your wardrobe. Don't go out and buy piles
of it, but if he really likes that color he'll notice the clothes and therefore
the person in them. Don't buy the clothes if you don't like the color.
Don't buy expensive things just to get noticed. You're still your own person.
Guys do not like it if you're fake!
- When you have come familiar perhaps
you could touch his arm or as I've found very handy just when you are walking
hold your hand slightly away from your body so he can hold it. Also you
can lean toward him when your sitting next to him, but not too close. You
could also use his shoulder as an armrest (but whatever you do don't lean
on it) or place your hand upon his shoulder very gently.
Warnings
- Be careful whose attention you're
getting, and what kind of attention you're earning. Being noticed by a
sleazy guy who'll pressure you to do things you don't want to do or a needy
guy who'll cling to you and make you feel limited is something you can
avoid by being wary.
- You can't get everyone to
notice you. Remember
that guys come and go, so do not stress yourself if things do not work
out in your favor.
- Being too obsessive can do the opposite
of what you want to achieve, pushing him farther away. If he just won't
become attracted to you, leave it alone. Do not push it, or things might
get ugly, and you'll earn a bad reputation.
- Don't show off too much flesh, especially
if he would always look! Keep him under suspense, in case he thinks you're
a push over.
- Realize that sometimes things might
always be better as friends, but if he wants to just be friends take the
opportunity, because thats better then nothing, who knows he might end
up liking you after a while.
- If you want him to be attracted
to you, make sure he's single first! You never want to be with man who
is taken. you know what they say, what goes around comes around.
- DON'T BE TOO DESPERATE!! Guys
hate it when girls try really, really hard to impress them, it just gets
out of hand and it's a real turn off for them.
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