The Hard Lessons on Love and Men...
from GREY'S ANATOMY
1. A man won't let go if he really loves you.Do not hold on to someone who has
let go of you. He does not love you and does not value having you.Believe me, he
will not let go if he really loves you. There is another reason he is not
willing to tell.
2. Do not look for reasons why he ended the relationship.There is only one
reason why he ended your relationship. He just does not love you.
Do not waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have
done.Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.
3. Do not get hung up on your past. Do not nag or distrust your current
boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Do not treat him or the
relationship the same way. Do not compare.He will not react the same way
as your ex. Do not be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to
look for another girl.What happened with your ex was not your fault. It was not
because you didn't guard him enough or you didn't make him happy enough.
4. Do not look into images.How many times have you met a girl who didn't
have the best image in school or at the office,but you get to know the girl and
found out she was actually extremely nice?Do not rely on images. Oftentimes,
it is far from reality. Do not fear men just because your "supposedly" perfect
ex-boyfriend mistreated you.
5. Always have your own set of rules. Set your limits on how far you'd go for
a guy. It's perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it's worth it..And
it's worth it if the guy is treating you right.
6. Do not be scared to lose him. Don't be scared that he'll break up with
you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage.
Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak
up.
7. Avoid calling your guy.It's a guy thing. The relationship will definitely
be better if it's the guy who's calling, not the girl.He will get tired of you if
you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge.More so, he will
get annoyed. But it's a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until
you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed
(like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).
8. There is a guy who will value you. There is a guy out there who can make
you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first
few weeks together. So don't lose hope. Don't settle for a lesbian if you are
not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl
can. Also, do not believe him when he says it's just the way he really is.
He's not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few
weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you
anymore.
9. Always be the only one, no matter what. Do not ever fall for a guy who has
another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he
just can't get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he
loves you and for some reason, he can't leave or let go of another girl, then
you are no different from any ordinary mistress.
10. He must respect you. No matter how long the relationship has been, he
should always show respect towards you
11. If he fooled you, end it. Philandering once is enough. You can
never trust nor respect the person again.
12. Never start a relationship the wrong way. Do not steal another girl's man,
for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong
reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex,
man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up
wasting more years of your life.
13. Do not force yourself into a relationship. Do not get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn't come yet..
Do not choose who to say yes to based on superficial things like money, looks, cars, etc..
If you are even thinking of these things, you have to STOP!
